Part Two "The Love of My Life"

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If you know my husband you would know that his personality and character may come off as serious. I think he comes off a bit mysterious if you ask me. So when we were hanging out that night at the promotion party, it was really difficult for me to read him. Back then most of the guys I would meet showed interest in me right away. But Jack was different he was so smooth and chill, I wasn't use to that reaction from a guy. I had expected for him to be all over me, so I could brush him off like I did to the other ones. But that wasn't the case with him and that wasn't working for me. I was the one that was supposed to play hard to get not the other way around!

That night our conversation was flirtatious but in a casual grown and sexy way. It was like something I would have seen in a movie, sounds cheesy but so true! This drove me insane and it made me want him even more! I knew I had to do something to see if he was into me but, I didn't want to be obvious about it either. I had to know if this guy was interested in me! Don't get me wrong I didn't want a relationship, considering my past mess but I did want to go on dates. And I wanted to put him on my list, my dating list. Hey, a girl needs to have options! Besides when you’re single, working full time and going to the University, that little bit a free time you have is priceless. So why not date?

Okay, back to the story… As our conversation starts to dwindle down, a group of our friends call out to us “Shot Time?!” I take another shot of So Co and Lime with everyone and immediately grab Veronica and take her to the bathroom with me. "I don't think he likes me!" I say as I close the door behind us. "Yes he does, go back and talk to him!" she says. What more was there to say to him besides the fact that you’re hot and we should hang out sometime? But who does that? Not me! That’s the guys’ job. What was I supposed to do now? Then just like that I had an idea….. I thought to myself, if I go outside and he looks for me then he had to be into me?!?

This day is implanted in my memory. When people ask how we met, this is the story I tell them....

After I left the bathroom with Veronica, I decided to quietly go outside and sit out on the patio, while everyone was inside at the party. By that point I was away from the party and Jack for some time, so he had to be wondering where I went. I figured if he would come out and look for me then he had to be into me. Right?!? I sat there for a good five minutes before I started questioning my own idea. Maybe my bright idea was not going to work after all or worst, maybe he really wasn’t that into me like I had hoped?!? And just like that Jack comes out and says, "What are you doing out here all alone? I was looking for you, come back inside." I quickly responded with (in a cute and sexy tone), "Why, do you miss me?" he smiles and says "maybe, so come back inside." YES! I thought to myself I knew he couldn't resist me. LoL

We hit it off instantly and would speak on the phone and go on dates. I liked him but because he was military, I wasn't serious about the idea of him and I would date other guys. At that time I was dating a couple guys, I was in college so I would date regularly. I loved getting all dressed up and eating free food, best part about dating. Besides, I wasn't looking for anything serious anyways, I just wanted to have fun. Ironically though, as I continued to date these other guys I would find myself gravitating more towards Jack, he was just great to talk to. Our conversations were always so intellectual and sexy, he was definitely different from the rest. I remember I would go on dates with these other guys and would find myself thinking about Jack. Wondering what he was doing at that very moment. Wishing I was hanging out with him rather than the guy sitting in front of me.

I didn't think I would catch feelings for him the way I did, but I couldn't help it. Our talks were so powerful, he was smart and wise and that was what I was most attracted too. We would talk about our dreams and what we wanted our futures to be like. It was as if I had met the man of my dreams, somebody pinch me please! The idea that I can find someone that fits me almost perfectly was surreal. I remember I would try and look for reasons not to be with him. But in the end I couldn't help myself. I fell deeply for him. Slowly but surely I found myself ending things with the other guys and spending more of my time with Jack.

As much as the idea about being a military wife was the last thing I wanted to be. I also wasn't sure I wanted to let this one go. Who knew if I could find another guy like Jack, he was almost perfect. We dated for about a year and a half, fell head over heels for each other, traveled and enjoyed our relationship together. He proposed, we got married and then..... Two months later he gets deployed to Iraq, way to start off a marriage! (Another story for another day)

It's been such a long road but I am so happy to call him mine. He is my best friend and the best husband a girl can have. It wasn't love at first sight, but it definitely turned into love and here we are seven years later. I can honestly say I am with the love of my life and I couldn't be any happier. Who would have known I'd actually become a military wife.

Sincerely Yours,
        Lola

Part Two "How it All Began"

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I've always envisioned myself becoming a successful women. My dream in life was to live in New York City, make tons of money, and look fabulous while doing it. If you know me personally you would know that I am a fashionista at heart. I love to dress up really pretty ALL the time, it's just who I am and I wouldn't have it any other way. Living in New Jersey worked for me because I fit right in with the people that I surrounded myself with. So when I found out where I'd be living for the next three years, you will understand my surprise.

I can still hear Jacks voice in my head as he says, "Your not going to be too happy about this, it's not what you think. We're moving to a place called Barstow." "Barstow?!" Where is that, I thought to myself? I quickly researched it on my phone and It was not what I envisioned California to be like at all. That's when reality sunk in. My heart sank to my feet, and it really hit me. I am really moving across the country in a month and it's the furthest way from city living you can get. It was more like desert living! My life was really about to change in a drastic way. At that moment all I could do was cry, and I sure did! I ran to the bathroom at work and let it all out, I cried like a baby!

I remember calling Veronica, one of my best friends, and telling her what had just happened to me. She was the only person I could talk to that would understand me, she too was a military wife. I remember freaking out over the phone to her, complaining to her that I cound´t leave! I had a job and a ton of responsibilities to take care off. It wasn't my fault that they were moving Jack, why should I have to deal with the consequences! I can still hear her voice in my head as she says, ¨Lola, what are you saying?!? This is your husband we´re talking about, you have to go with him. You knew this could be a possibility. This is military life, you go where your told, no questions asked.¨ Those words hit me like a truck, piercing my heart like a dagger. This was really going to happen and there was nothing I can do about it.

That month was one of the saddest times of my life. I remember, I would drive to and from work everyday and tears would just run down my face. I would think about what I was giving up and the unknown really scared me. I would call my dad and cry like a little girl, telling him I didn't want to leave! I wanted to stay in Jersey where home was, I didn't want to leave everything I had behind. I worked hard to get to where I was and in less then a month it would be a distant memory. What was I going to do, stay in Jersey and give up the love of my life, possibly risking my marriage? Of course not! I'm not gonna lie though, the idea did cross my mind. But then reality soon kicked in and that wasn't going to happen.

Needless to say it was a hectic month and crying about it was not going to change anything. So I put my big girl heels on and headed towards the next chapter in my life. I lived in Barstow for about three years and it wasn't a bad experience. There were some bumps along the road, but that part of my life is another story for another day. Time passed and we eventually had to move again and we moved to San Diego. Which is where I currently live now. I have to say that when I think back, my life has been an interesting journey. There were a lot of ups and downs and now that I think about it, I wouldn't change any of it. It truly has helped shape me into the women I am today.

This is where I end my story today. Hopefully you enjoyed reading a piece of my life. Writing about it has really brought back a ton of memories and emotions that I haven't felt in awhile. I am glad I was able to share some of that with you. It still seems a bit surreal to me, this life of mine.

Sincerely Yours,
                     Lola

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